I understand your concerns, and admittedly that is just bad wording on my part, at least to my mind.
Vanyel does have knowledge of sex, of course - both from his short relationship with Tylendel, and a few mentioned pairings he's had. It is not that he is ignorant or overly inexperienced, he just honestly hasn't had that much sex, at least in my opinion. Within the novels it is hinted that he remains largely abstinent after losing Tylendel, with a few brief moments here and there (three of the for sure known are with women and were purely for pro-creation rather than for his own pleasure, and the other a random soldier whom he spent one night with before moving on). In my phrasing I meant more that he simply was not allowing himself to have partners, and so his array of experience with actual acts may not be as broad, even if he has knowledge/awareness of them. So you are right, he is not ignorant of different kinds of sex, but neither would I call him a master in the bedroom either - more for the fact that, as stated above, he hasn't had all that many partners for his own pleasure. At least - again - in my opinion, based on what I read and remember in the novels and inferred.
I apologize if he comes off like that, and there are some instances where I can see that it has and I should work to adjust future interactions. Trust that I take critique seriously and consider it seriously when given, and I appreciate your feedback. And I hope that I have helped ease your concerns.
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I understand your concerns, and admittedly that is just bad wording on my part, at least to my mind.
Vanyel does have knowledge of sex, of course - both from his short relationship with Tylendel, and a few mentioned pairings he's had. It is not that he is ignorant or overly inexperienced, he just honestly hasn't had that much sex, at least in my opinion. Within the novels it is hinted that he remains largely abstinent after losing Tylendel, with a few brief moments here and there (three of the for sure known are with women and were purely for pro-creation rather than for his own pleasure, and the other a random soldier whom he spent one night with before moving on). In my phrasing I meant more that he simply was not allowing himself to have partners, and so his array of experience with actual acts may not be as broad, even if he has knowledge/awareness of them. So you are right, he is not ignorant of different kinds of sex, but neither would I call him a master in the bedroom either - more for the fact that, as stated above, he hasn't had all that many partners for his own pleasure. At least - again - in my opinion, based on what I read and remember in the novels and inferred.
I apologize if he comes off like that, and there are some instances where I can see that it has and I should work to adjust future interactions. Trust that I take critique seriously and consider it seriously when given, and I appreciate your feedback. And I hope that I have helped ease your concerns.